I love my girlfriends. We share
ALMOST everything…intangible
– gist, pain, laughter,
lovenotmen, beauty tips,
anything really.
“ I don’t want him in the
friendzone again jor. Chizzy is
right. It’s really impossible for a
boy and a girl to stay just
friends. Sooner or later one will
fall for the other. ” blurted
Gloria.
“ Huh? …from where to where?
Where is that coming from? ” I
retorted.
We all knew who she was talking about. Demilade, our good-looking, down-to-earth, funny, kind
buddy of many years.
Demilade and Gloria met some years back. To the best of my knowledge, they’ve never dated. In
fact when they met some years ago, Gloria was dating someone else at the time and Demilade
respected her relationship. He gradually became a close friend.
They talked about anything and everything. They cared so much about each other and had each
other’s back…like siblings. Demilade was that kind of sib that could help a sister buy sanitary
pad from a store without feeling like his manhood had been stolen. Friend of life. She called him
up whenever she had issues with her boyfriend and he would console and give her the much
needed advice on how to sort things out. She shared her daily experiences with toasters on the
streets or fights with colleagues at work via phone calls, BBM, Yahoo messenger, Skype…you
name it. They communicated in some way, everyday.
Once, she complained of long-time male friends who suddenly wanted more than being just
friends and told him how ridiculous that was and he assured her that he was different plus
swore he’d never ask her out. He was more than content with just being her friend and being
there for her and nothing else. He was her rant buddy. He also shared his daily concerns with
her. Once, he told her of a girl he liked and she gave him some tips on how to get the girl’s
attention and how not to mess up their first date. She did this without the slightest tinge of
jealousy. They knew their boundaries. They were in each other’s friend zones and not
complaining.
Few years and a broken relationship later, my dear friend Gloria wants something more. Why
on God’s green earth would she want to begin to date someone new, right from the scratch
when she has right in front of her, a guy who’s been her buddy for several years, a guy who
knows all about her and loves (platonic, I think?) her all the same. He stood by her all through
her broken-hearted phase and constantly reassured her that she’d find someone better…someone
who deserved her.
He’s right. She deserves someone better. She deserves him. Gloria wants Demilade, her best
friend who she zoned for several years. She can’t listen to Justin Timberlake’s ‘Mirrors’ without
thinking of him. She’s attracted to him now, in a I-love-you-I-need-you-we-are-meant-to-be-
together kind of way. She’s certain he loves her too, she can tell from the way he looks into her
eyes, hold her hand as they walk down the road, unbothered by staring eyes. You may have seen
them a couple of times either in a mall or a galleria or a bar and must have admired how much
in love they were and perhaps made comments on the fact that they look so good together. They
get comments like that a lot. But the truth is: They’re NOT lovers…we know better. They’re just
friends. They ain’t dating…yet.
Maybe, just maybe, it is truly impossible for a girl and guy to stay ‘just friends’ and nothing
else. Sooner or later, one will fall for the other. She wants him out of the friendzone after
keeping him there for so long. But how does she go about it without coming off as a ‘hoe’? Have
you ever found yourself falling in love with a friend that you once zoned?
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